Suspended in sleep

This picture reminds me of a fairytale.

From the very talented James Glendinning.

Urethral play

From Erotic OTK Spanking stories. Yay for sounding!

An object of desire

From Degustibuss.

This image, this view of a woman from behind, with a man's hands around her torso from below... I know this is supposed to be the view of a dominant woman with her submissive worshipping her, with her full of power and control, but... honestly all I can see her as is an object of desire. Though that might be a form of dominance, using his desire to control him, it's not a kind of dominance that I enjoy. I mean, what happens when you age or gain weight or lose weight or anything changes? Do you lose your power over him if your power only ever stemmed from his physical desire for you?

So that form of dominance does not fit well with me, not only for that reason, but also because then dominant women are forced into society's idea of what a woman should look like and dress when being dominant. Which is this woman in the photo we're looking at. She's wearing gloves and fishnet and a corset. She's fit and beautiful. That's all you need to be a dominant.

Now, back to what I see in this photo, because I really do enjoy it and find it gorgeous.

I really enjoy objectification. I enjoy it as an artist, seeing a beautiful human-art creation, and I enjoy it as a dominant, watching someone obey their top and remain a still and amazing piece of art or furniture.  So I really do enjoy this photo, just from the opposite side. I'm viewing this in a way that suggests that she is submitting to him. She is a beautiful human statue and he is enjoying being able to play with the artwork that she has become. Those hands are in control. She's just a lovely, submissive doll.

Yes, I realize that a lot of dominants enjoy dressing up and that fit and societally-deemed beautiful people are dominant as well, but I find that they are a much smaller category than the sexy fat people I know who like to play while wearing jeans or sweatpants.

Please enjoy the photo, whichever side you prefer.

Shaggy puppy

Hello all,

Have a cute pup!

Yours truly,
M

Please go thank User name not found. :)

Return

A beautiful photo, a beautiful model and some very nice rope. I wish mine looked that nice!


Hello everyone, sorry for my little 5 week hiatus. Work and life in general have been absolutely insane. I'm back with a sexy photo to make up for my disappearance. Enjoy!

From Black Fantastix.

smiles

From glamour.com, but I found it through Happy BDSM! Check out that blog, it's awesome. So many happy, smiley faces from kinksters enjoying their play. Lovely. :)

clamped nipples

Lovely expression. :)

From i honor her.

Sex

Another eye-catcher from Real Dominant Women.

I admit, I had to post this one because her hair reminds me of Andromeda's hair from my earlier post. That is some amazing hair!

Also, though this blog is about sex as well as kink, bdsm, etc, it's pretty rare that I post pictures of penetrative sex, especially with a straight couple. It certainly used to squick me, as a gender-unhappy kinky person who is usually seen as lady-shaped, but I also didn't want this blog to be seen as porn. Yes, it's certainly porny and sexy and full of wank-fodder, but having vanilla-ish sex posted often or even at all just sat wrong with me. But to be uncomfortable by something consensual and lovely (like this photo) is kind of silly, so we might be getting more photos of penetrative, vaginal sex.

So, here, have some sex; a lovely female top using her handcuffed boy to get herself off.

PS, Real Dominant Women, I really like a lot of your photos, but your name makes me think of 'the ONE TWUE WAY' and makes me giggle/sad.

Ambiguous

From My Darker Side.

I both like and dislike this photo. I like that he's holding her hair, that she's got a cigarette and that her body language is just so relaxed. I'm sort of 50/50 on the bracelet he's wearing. A lot of people mix the goth style into kink and I'm meh about that. But as sensation play, those spikes could be a lot of fun, so I'm all for that side of it.

I like him grabbing her, but both his hands seem so tense. That might just be the amount of pressure he's using to pull/squeeze, but it doesn't look comfortable. Part of what I've learned about bdsm is that the top should be worried about pulling a muscle as much as they should be worried about hurting their bottom. Play comfortably or be prepared to hurt yourself.

The part I have the most issue with... is that I can't see their faces. Though this is a lovely photo, it could be completely one way or the other just by the expressions that we can't see. Is she bored? Is he angry?

I like being able to see happy people playing, and I can't read their body language well enough to say 'wow, these people are so happy together, grabbing and being grabbed. That's awesome'.

Sweet little pinch

Oooo.

I'm not usually into shaved lady-parts, but this is a pretty awesome photo.

From Cyanide Mishka.

Enjoyment

Some Sherlock and Watson fun from Tabby Stardust along with a very nice secret from male submission art. This is something that drives me crazy too. BDSM porn where the actors/characters are forced into it squicks me. I want to scream red for the person and go get them a juice box and a blanket. Consensual nonconsent is wonderful, but if I can't see the consensual part of it, I get bad feelings about the whole thing and I end up being sad instead of being able to enjoy my porn.

Fanfiction also has a lot of 'no, don't tie me up, it's humiliating', but I can find ones I like more easily. And I like writing it too, so even better.

appealing objects

All of these are from Alexander.

I would love to see things like this more often on sites like fetlife. If you're into kink and you're looking to attract a dominant/top/whatever and one of your interests is objectification, why not post a photo of it? I think that would be much better received than a picture of, oh, say, your penis.

Lovely work from a great model. Very creative, different poses to be a table of different heights.

Great stuff!

Happy and blindfolded

Happiest blindfolding ever!

I love pictures of happy people doing happy, cute bdsm things together. You don't always have to look stern and tough and angry when you blindfold people. That's fine for scenes and certain kinds of play, but sometimes it's nice to roll around and play and giggle and be happy that you can enjoy this together.

From My Darker Side.

held

A gorgeous photo from i honor her.

I'm not sure if this is breath play, or just a very possessive hug, but the atmosphere is so calm and soft. I don't usually care about full frontal nudity in art, but it's interesting to see a picture of two naked people touching without actually seeing their genitals or breasts.

Device and tease

Is it really strange that the whole reason I'm posting this picture of a lovely lady in bondage begging for someone's cock is that I really, really like the metal bondage she's wearing?

Look at those! So cool!

From Passius.

Butchness/selfness

I used to hate the word butch.

When I was younger, it was always such a taunt. As I've posted before, I was often teased for being masculine and as I'd been brought up with society's views of how little girls should think, act and look, I thought being masculine - being butch- was an awful thing.

I also rebelled at being feminine. I hated wearing dresses, I refused to shave my legs for a long time and whenever we played pretend, I was a boy.

When I got to be about 21 or so, I began to come to terms with my butchness. I was getting fatter, I had my head half shaved and I really, really loved being male to my partner. I don't present as male most of the time. It's not something I'm ready to do. But if I couldn't be my masculine, butch self with my boy, I doubt I'd be as sane as I am. I've been a boy in my relationships since I was sixteen, which is part of the reason I started dating girls. None of the boys I was interested in understood that, but girls, especially 16 year old bi or curious ones, tended not to care what gender I presented as in private.

Still, I've only just started to realize how much my image of myself is of this butch person. When my hair was long, I was pretty. And I appreciated it. But it felt like I was appreciating someone else. 'Oh, she's pretty. Definitely not me, but pretty,' was about all I felt about it.

Now that my hair is buzzed on the sides again, I feel so much more at home. Which is an odd feeling. Apparently I need to be able to see my scalp in order to feel like myself.

I would be sad if I were not the fat, butch, hairy, half-shaved head person that I am.

Fuck labels, really. I'm a lot of things. Several of them are contradictions. That's okay. I'm me.

Polished

Do you know what I love best about having my boy clean and polish my boots?

For the next week or so, however long the shine lasts, every time I look down at my boots, or put them on, or take them off, I think about him. I get this wonderful rise of emotions. Pride at having such a practical and considerate boy. Lust, remembering him rubbing the polish into my boots with his fingers, being able to feel it through the leather and the fun that ensued. And of course love, for someone so invaluable who deems me worthy to be their dominant.

There is nothing more wonderful than having someone you admire and respect go down on their knees and polish your boots for you.

This is a picture of my boots from three years ago. Unfortunately they have gone to boot heaven now, but they served me well.

Did I mention I got new boots?

Did I mention that we've been playing with boots a lot lately?

Heh, there might be a lot more posts about boots for awhile. Hope no one minds!

pole under the knees

A pretty upside down rope suspension from Rope Marks.

Worshipful

He looks so happy cuddled up to her cock. Gotta love that expression. And I like that he doesn't look afraid, that he isn't a young twink and that he seems completely at peace. A lot of people find submission to put them in an almost meditative place. I wish there was more of that.

She has a very nice body, and though she might be a model, she's also very human, which I can't always say about bdsm models. She has circles under her eyes, her hair is a bit wild, she's looking down at the camera with an expression somewhere in between a smile and a glare.

Above all, I love that they're both naked (as far as we can tell). No fetwear on either of them (I don't count strap-ons as fetwear, that's like calling a penis fetwear). When I play, generally I wear nothing or I wear pants and boots, depending on the scene. I've never understood the appeal of corsets if there is going to be actual play. Yes, they're beautiful, yes I really appreciate seeing people in them, but playing with a bottom who's wearing one is like playing with half the bottom, since hitting them over their corset is not going to happen. And being a top wearing a corset... bad idea! Less mobility, not very comfortable. You know all the advice we were given as kids about dressing for field trips? Get a good sleep, eat a good breakfast and dress comfortably? Those all apply to play, especially the last one.

Great photo from Strap on Slaves.

First try

A bound and gagged man laying on a couch. I like the way this was taken, it makes it look like he's sitting up when I'm pretty sure he's been thrown on his side. Not too fond of the bondage in this picture, but I like cloth gags and this does seem more real somehow, due to the bondage not being spectacular. His partner decided to try it out on a willing subject, maybe.

Photo from Captured Guy.