submission/masculinity

Why is a beautiful submissive man hiding his face?

Is it a shameful thing to be submissive?

Watch femdom porn. The men wear masks. The men have their faces turned away from the camera. The women never wear masks and you can always see their faces. Their identities aren't something they need to hide.

You know what I hear from a lot of submissive men? I can't go to a munch because of my job. People might see me. People might know who I am.

I never hear this from dominant men. I never hear this from women. I'm not saying there aren't other people out there who are worried about people finding out who they are, but I talk to a lot of kinksters.

Why is it shameful to be a submissive man?

Why is masculinity so far removed from submission in so many cultures?


Photo from redbottom83.

Used

The fantasy of being used by strangers, in any way they see fit, of being unable to resist or have any say, is very common. It's an amazing fantasy and it works into a lot of the writing and scenes that me and my boy have. But I often run into people who can't understand the difference between negotiating for play and telling people about their fantasies.

The reality of that sort of play is terrifying. The fantasy might be amazing and mind-blowing, but trusting your body and your self to a stranger, or even to someone you know, without the option of safewording or escaping safely... terrifying.

On the plus side, it makes for some sexy art.

Go thank Coffee Cream for the art.

a grip on her bit

A delightful picture from JimmyC.

It's one of those weeks for me, so no clever comments. Again. Just enjoy.

rope leash

A simple white rope leash and a black blindfold.

For once, I really don't mind the shaved look. Normally I much prefer hair, but she's got a really lovely shape and she looks cute shaved.

From the very talented Brutal Hawk.

Kiss ass

Sweet pet kissing his lady's ass from Domme and pet in love.

Good dog

From Cinemel.

I think she's using a condom like a treat! Hah, nice.

Bondagey fun

Nice matching black leather things on a handsome man, from Lady North Star.

Does anyone know who these characters are? I feel old for some reason. Maybe I'm just not into enough pop culture... not that that's a bad thing.

leash and collar

From Einhund.

I really like the shapes he's made with his use of light and shadow. Really well formed.

Anime pet boy

A dog-boy's owner touches his cock with her sock foot while he kneels in front of her chair. I wonder if the artist intended the character to be a school girl or if the character was just dressing up like one?  I don't really understand the school girl fetish, but I do love the design of them and picking colors for uniforms.

Art from Femdom Resource.

Snuggly BDSM love

Art by Jedesto.

Aw, look at the snuggliness.

I can never get enough of this; affection and trust between two people in a D/s relationship.
So many people expect these relationships to be unhealthy, full of fear of the dominant and anger or even disgust towards the submissive. I've seen some unhealthy kinky relationships, yes. But I've seen far more unhealthy vanilla relationships. The strong kinky couples (or trios, or groups) that I've met are stronger for their kink and for the trust and communication something like this requires. You can't just snap a leash on someone without talking to them about how they feel about it first, and you can't expect any relationship to work if you're not willing to share thoughts and feelings in both directions.

cuffed and leashed

I like these cuffs! Awesome. They look heavy. Nice collar too, I like metal collars.

Great photo from Cynical Trash.

Height and dominance

One of the myths I've heard about kink is 'How can women be dominant if their partners could physically dominate them since the men are taller/stronger/etc?'

It's quite simple: Willing submission.

Just because this man could take control of whatever scene they're in the middle of, just because he could wrestle her and win, just because he is stronger, faster, fitter, taller, musclier, 'manlier', etc... doesn't mean he wants to be on top.

Yes, sometimes it's fun to wrestle and sometimes it's fun to turn the tables (if it's pre-negotiated, otherwise feelings can get hurt) but if you're a male submissive, you don't have to find an Amazon woman to dominate you. You can find a tiny woman to do that just as well. I understand why people may like their dominants to be taller, etc, since I think height difference is quite sexy, but contrary to what I was taught by Invader Zim, being taller does not make you superior.

Anyhow, I adore this photo. She has great attitude and my smoking fetish is quite happy. He's just standing straight, totally naked except for his collar. It's a great photo and I found it on i Honor Her.

Orange is the new black

Part of the reason I like this picture so much is the fact that she's wearing orange. So often you see top-folk in black or red or other suitably 'dominant' colours, but orange? Never! That's why this is awesome.

For once, I don't dislike the heels. They're really tall and her legs look awesome. And I bet they'd feel great on his back of she stepped on him.

Leashes dangling

A sweet little bottom, bound to the ceiling. Art by Luctem. I like this leash system, with them attached to the ceiling. I like her little harness and gloves.

Chains

A lovely boy sits on the side of a pool in chains. Art by Raeraesama.

kept on a belt

An absolutely gorgeous photo of a dominant woman with her submissive boy. I love his expression, like he's trying not to beg for a kiss. And the belt used as a collar and leash? Great.

a nice walk in the yard

His lady sits after a walk, letting him rest. It's hard work walking that way! Very sweet art, nice to see some female dominance that doesn't involve the woman being naked. Though my boy and I usually play naked, there's also a very clear sense of power when the bottom is nude and the top is clothed.

I found this at femdom resource.

properly bound and gagged

A bound and gagged redheaded boy, as drawn by your biggest stalker. I love the dreadlocks tied back, though I have to admit that I don't usually like dreadlocks as much in real life as I do in art. Also, hooray for cock piercing and hooray for BEARDS.

possess

A chain leash pulled taut, a blindfold, handcuffs, stockings, black lingerie and some tattoos.  Purr. Plus, I love holding my boy by the hips. That's what hip bones are for!

From OTN Photographic.

Cock leash

A cock-leash! Cool angle for the photo and a happy cock on a leash.

From Pretty Kinky Things.