Service

Service.

I love service.

I am a sadist. During sex, I switch. I enjoy bottoming for that as well as for the occasional flogging or what-have-you, usually a thuddy implement. I'm primarily a top. I'm also a dominant.

I used to find dominance to be absolutely exhausting.

To stay in the frame of mind where I am the Master, I must be in control, I must be strict and cruel and creative and completely in charge, as well as kind and merciful and loving is hard for me. I prefer to be a creative sadist. I'm very hands on and when it comes to more emotional or mental scenes, I tend to get tired pretty quickly and revert to my sadistic self, since I'm a more physical person.

Which I'm sure is a bit frustrating for my boy, who is not only a wonderfully tough maso (our pet name for masochists) but also very submissive. He needs submission to be able to get himself together somedays. Just like we both need a good kicking-the-shit-out-of-him scene when we haven't played for awhile. Most kinksters will agree it's a major stress-relief.

So, while I find dominance to be exhausting, especially when I was first stepping into the role (back when I had no idea what a sadist even was) I find the idea of service to be totally liberating. I can focus on my needs and without putting much creative thought into it, this fulfills the needs of my submissive. I can ask for food, drink, massage, attention. Even me saying 'pet meeee!' is demanding a bit of service, albeit in the whiniest voice possible.

I've asked for essays, for writing, for art, for pedicures. I've asked for much more creative things, too, but I find the little things are easiest to do and they add into bigger things.

The big D/s scenes are more fun this way, though we haven't done one in awhile. I find it's easier if I break it down into little things. Boot worship, maybe throw in some sadism there, add a bit of body worship, orgasm control, bondage...

I admit, I used to panic when I stepped into my D/s role. My brain would immediately rush from idea to idea and the scene would turn into a jumble. I'd threaten him with certain things and never follow through. I'd forget what I was doing and confuse him completely when I asked for several things at once. Note to self (and other D-types who have this problem); be clear when you're instructing someone. They can't read your mind and they really want to make you happy.

It's taken some time, but now that we're here, I find that I really enjoy having a butler as much as I enjoy having a maso. I love having him 'run the household'. Though a lot of people on the outside of our relationship have commented on how T seems to run everything and be in charge, the duty of a butler is to keep everything running and to make sure their master doesn't have to.

And really, I'd be awful at taking care of a wine cellar (not that we have one).

Not everyone who is submissive is good at service, or wants to be. It takes dedication, love, a stubborn perfectionism and eye for detail. I only wish I could be more the Master my boy deserves. <3

Pedicure

And this is D/s. Isn't it sweet? Look at the smile on his face.

Boys, this is the way to convince your vanilla partner to dominate you. Most vanilla people don't realize that D/s can be something as simple as a pedicure, being served dinner, having their taxes done, their hair brushed, getting a massage.

I think service oriented D/s is the best kind.

Point of view

Alright, ignoring the fact that I got this image at Real Dominant Women... who is in charge in this photo?

I have enjoyed straight razor shaving very much. I have topped from either side of it. I have shaved my boy this way and I delight in the power and control I have with a razor at his throat. It's very sexy and a powerful feeling, knowing how easy it would be to slit his throat. Not to mention how good the razor feels, it's a wonderful sensation play.

I have also topped in the way that I have my boy shave me. I relax in the tub, read a book, soak under a towel, get all lathered up and shaved. It feels spectacular and it's his service to me. He doesn't have the control or power because he's not in that mindset and neither am I. I have the power because he is doing me this service, keeping his dominant relaxed and keeping his appearance sharp.

This is why I enjoy this photo, to be honest. Not only because I have a hard on for straight razor shaving, but also because this can be seen in either light, depending on the viewer.

breakfast and foot worship

This reminds me of the vacation my boy and I took just last week... we stayed in a lovely Bed and Breakfast with flowery things everywhere and they delivered our food to us on a beautiful tray... haha.

Lovely boy. I wonder what implement she has on the table there? A crop?

From Other World Kingdom.

serving and distracting

Making a service submission pay attention to serving and focus on something while you torment them however you like sounds like a wonderful time to me. And the art here is amazing.

From Saturno Butto.

Justine

A picture from the movie Justine. I know I've seen this movie, but I honesty don't remember much about it. I just thought the picture was interesting. Is De Sade on top and spanking her? Is he dressed as a display of his dominance/control of the situation? Is she on top and getting a massage from her dutiful butler? I'm under the impression that De Sade was more of a switch than simply a sadist, though from his grip on her ass, I'm willing to bet he's spanking her.

Of course I can get the answers to my questions if I watch the movie, but I kind of prefer it this way.

Butler

From The home butler.

Oh service. You know how to make me happy.

Simple service

A nude boy carries a bottle of wine and two glasses on a tray. I love pictures like this. Service can be so simple, or so elaborate. It's obvious he's focusing on keeping the tray steady. It's such a wonderful way to show your love and willingness to submit and to make your top happy.

Also, I could go for a glass of white wine.

Photo from Artastic Avenjer.

Tea Service

A well-dressed man carries a tray with a teapot and teacups through a hedge garden.

I love tea service. I'm not always a terribly decisive dominant and I know sometimes that drives my boy insane, since he doesn't know what I want and therefore can't really serve me... but sometimes I'll say 'I dunno... maybe' to tea and he'll just make it for me and serve me. It's wonderful.

One day, we'll do tea service in formal wear. I hope to start doing it in kinky groups, but I'm afraid we probably can't do that yet. I don't have the energy to organize anything alone right now and everyone who usually helps me out is busy with their own things.  Ah well, hopefully something will change.

Tea tray

I adore Mister X's art. He comes up with the best ideas. Any sadist would be proud to have such a lovely tea tray.

Elegance

Ahh, reminds me of the opening scene from Secretary. I love that part of the movie best. She's graceful even with her spreader bar, still able to get work done and look elegant doing so. Reminds me of my butler.

From touch puppet.

Serving

A Master untucks his butler's shirt and seems to be teasing him. Maybe about to remove his pants?

I love service submission, it's a wonderful thing. And historical butler/valet/male servant play is even more wonderful. The historical outfits alone put me into dom-space. I want a silver tray for my pet to serve me from. I also want someone to put together clothes from Hobbit Dragon's designs, because rawr.

Art by Melukilan, but the characters belong to Hobbit Dragon.

Serving tea

Nice way to serve tea.

From Free spanking.

Only an apron

Wonderful!

I found this on My Many Dreams.

Serving tea

I adore this photo! So adorable!

I found this here.

Subservience

This image reminds me of an exchange from Sacher-Masoch's Venus in Furs.

Wanda: Kneel down here, beside my chair.
Wanda: Kiss my hand.
Wanda: And the mouth-.

I am sure one day I will put the actual quote in... but for now, laziness prevails.

ashtray

I found this here.

To serve, one doesn't need to be noticed. One has merely to fulfill a need or function. Such as an ashtray or footstool.

I enjoy watching quiet submission almost as much as I enjoy a morning of it with my own pet. Her being my foot rest or even simply rubbing or caressing me makes me happy.

Her pet wolf

I love fairy tales. Red Riding Hood in particular. I believe this is from male submission art. I see that her basket seems to have anal beads poking out. Leaves you to wonder what else is under there.

Serving as a table

Objectification. Nude, flexible boy as a table for your wine and your fruit. I believe this is meant to be Dionysus or Ganymede, however I can't seem to find the artist. The wine, the snake tattoo, the nude young man, the grapes, all seem to point towards Dionysus.