Service

Service.

I love service.

I am a sadist. During sex, I switch. I enjoy bottoming for that as well as for the occasional flogging or what-have-you, usually a thuddy implement. I'm primarily a top. I'm also a dominant.

I used to find dominance to be absolutely exhausting.

To stay in the frame of mind where I am the Master, I must be in control, I must be strict and cruel and creative and completely in charge, as well as kind and merciful and loving is hard for me. I prefer to be a creative sadist. I'm very hands on and when it comes to more emotional or mental scenes, I tend to get tired pretty quickly and revert to my sadistic self, since I'm a more physical person.

Which I'm sure is a bit frustrating for my boy, who is not only a wonderfully tough maso (our pet name for masochists) but also very submissive. He needs submission to be able to get himself together somedays. Just like we both need a good kicking-the-shit-out-of-him scene when we haven't played for awhile. Most kinksters will agree it's a major stress-relief.

So, while I find dominance to be exhausting, especially when I was first stepping into the role (back when I had no idea what a sadist even was) I find the idea of service to be totally liberating. I can focus on my needs and without putting much creative thought into it, this fulfills the needs of my submissive. I can ask for food, drink, massage, attention. Even me saying 'pet meeee!' is demanding a bit of service, albeit in the whiniest voice possible.

I've asked for essays, for writing, for art, for pedicures. I've asked for much more creative things, too, but I find the little things are easiest to do and they add into bigger things.

The big D/s scenes are more fun this way, though we haven't done one in awhile. I find it's easier if I break it down into little things. Boot worship, maybe throw in some sadism there, add a bit of body worship, orgasm control, bondage...

I admit, I used to panic when I stepped into my D/s role. My brain would immediately rush from idea to idea and the scene would turn into a jumble. I'd threaten him with certain things and never follow through. I'd forget what I was doing and confuse him completely when I asked for several things at once. Note to self (and other D-types who have this problem); be clear when you're instructing someone. They can't read your mind and they really want to make you happy.

It's taken some time, but now that we're here, I find that I really enjoy having a butler as much as I enjoy having a maso. I love having him 'run the household'. Though a lot of people on the outside of our relationship have commented on how T seems to run everything and be in charge, the duty of a butler is to keep everything running and to make sure their master doesn't have to.

And really, I'd be awful at taking care of a wine cellar (not that we have one).

Not everyone who is submissive is good at service, or wants to be. It takes dedication, love, a stubborn perfectionism and eye for detail. I only wish I could be more the Master my boy deserves. <3

Sweet little pinch

Oooo.

I'm not usually into shaved lady-parts, but this is a pretty awesome photo.

From Cyanide Mishka.

Double caning

Two couples enjoy some caning together. I love that the ladies are wound up for some dramatic strikes and I love the masochist in the front. Look at that pose! He's begging for more, ass in the air, pushed back as far as he can go so she has better access. His mouth is open in a yell of some kind (probably happy, judging by the position) and his cock is hard.

Even though I'm not a fan of tops wearing heels and corsets, I do like the naked top and I really enjoy this piece.

From Otto's Spanking Art.

Cropping

A quick photo for the blog before dinner. Have a pretty from i Honor Her.

Is he trying to cover his butt to protect it or is he spreading his cheeks to give her access to what she wants?

Clothespins

I like the differently colored clothespins and their placement. I wonder if they feel different, being plastic and wood. Also, mm, a deliciously gloved hand tilting her head upwards for a kiss.

From Stephanie M.

A couple

Today, I stumbled upon Daddy's Dirty Blonde.

Haaaa...

Seriously, look through their pictures. This scarification turns out beautifully and she wears it very well. Her daddy doesn't appear in many photos, but the fact that they took a photo of him disinfecting, wearing gloves and holding her so gently makes me so happy.

They have pictures of their studio, which is not only gorgeous, but obviously set up for frequent and imaginative play. Not only this, but all the pictures are really artistic and absolutely stunning.  They have some great bondage too...

LOOK AT THIS AND DROOL.

Not only is the photo beautiful, soft skin, nipple piercings, purple rope... but the bondage is asymmetrical! Does anyone remember me fetishizing asymmetrical bondage earlier? It's been awhile! I don't find this sort of asymmetry very often.

Also, she's adorable and has a strap on. :)

This blog makes me happy. Everyone should be happy and read blogs about sweet and creative bdsm couples in love.

:)

nipple twisting

I love this picture. The top has a bit of a goofy grin going on and the expression the bottom has... wonderful. Grabbing a handful of skin (though I prefer my boy's balls) and twisting like that makes me happy.

I guess I'm just an old fashioned sadist at heart. :)

dark wax

A lovely gag, some candles and wax and a wartenberg pinwheel from Dragon in London.

backhand

Purrr. A little backhand to the face and a pretty young lady being grabbed by the hair.

From David's Rope.

Laces

Please excuse the grass in the bottom of the painting, I took the picture outside at a kinky picnic.

This is a painting by me, I've been meaning to upload for some time now. The ribbon is actually laced through the canvas. It's currently for sale at Positive Passions, but I'm thinking of taking it home. I have very few paintings at home that I'm proud of.

a slap to the face

Oh Sardax. You're wonderful :)

blissful pain

I think my favorite thing about this picture is the sadist's drawers. SO CUTE.

More seriously, though they're obviously dressed up for this photo, their pose is awesome and I love how the sadist is gripping her masochist by the hair. The masochist holding her hair right alongside the sadist is exactly what my pet does when I'm just a bit too rough.

From Dominance and submission.

Picture removed

Picture removed

red handprint

From Atlantis Vampir.

I really like the art, there's some great attention to detail. Not only that, but the nice handprint on the bum, the chain garters, the long hair and her shadow. Lovely work! It's too bad about the watermark over her bum, but I understand why it's there.

So, 1000 posts here on StrangeTreats. Cool.

boot to the face

Rawr, another absolute gem from Combat boot fetish. I love his fingers and that expression on his face. I have a photo of my boy under my boot that's quite similar to this. Which might be part of why I love it so.

I have such a boner.

On being available

As one of the few sadists who is out and active in my kink community, I get a lot of offers for play. I think it may also have something to do with the fact that I'm fairly non-threatening, respectful and I do want people to get some sort of play out of parties.

However, I've been approached so many times for play at parties that my boy has started to feel as if the other people I play with are hedging in on our time. It isn't the fact that I'm playing with other people that's causing the unhappy feelings, so much as the constant pressure from a community that is full of unowned bottoms and people who don't get to do much bottoming in their relationships.

I'm aware that no one ever means to put that pressure on a sadist or the sadist's spouse/partner/masochist, but with a large group of people who look at me with doe eyes and ask 'so, have any plans for the next party?' well, it gets to be a bit much. Yes, there are plenty of people who approach me with the utmost respect, who give me time before a party, who realize that my partner comes first, but it's still a pressure.

This isn't the first time I've heard of a top getting harassed by bottoms. Apparently it's fairly common for communities to be bottom-heavy (tee-hee). I won't let it keep me from the community, but it has changed my priorities. At first I tried to accommodate them, but it put a strain on my pet and I, so now I've decided that I won't be playing with others for some time. I may eventually play with a few, who are close friends and who approach me with my partner there, but nothing for now. It just seems best to relieve the pressure completely.

Carrion will post about this eventually too.

Post removed

Post removed

On being ‘born a dominant’

A lot of people seem to have this notion that people are born dominant. This applies to submissives, masochists, sadists and switches, etc, but for the sake of simplicity of writing, I’ll stick to dominants. Though I believe that some people are born with certain tendencies, I do not believe anyone to be a dominant born.

Eg; I am born. I have a proclivity towards taking the top role during kink. However, due to society’s view on kink and never educating myself about it, I never take the opportunity to try this role or to learn anything about kink, D/s or topping. Am I a top?

I am born. I have an interest in receiving pain. Due to it being taboo and my belief that it is wrong, I never indulge myself. I never truly enjoy pain, as any enjoyment I receive leaves me with a sense of guilt. Am I a masochist?

I believe that someone has to practice to learn this sort of role. It’s like saying that you’re a musician. You’ve only ever touched an instrument once, but you know you like it. No one has ever enjoyed hearing you play, but you were born a musician. If you’ve never played with anyone and never tried to learn more or to better yourself as a dominant, how can you call yourself a dominant anymore than that musician can call themselves a musician?

It also goes both ways, though. You can learn all the skills and technique you like, but if you don’t truly enjoy what you’re doing, why bother?

Bettering yourself as a dominant is certainly possible. It’s just like learning to be a better person. You can learn to be a dominant and then you can learn to be an amazing dominant. I think anyone with an interest in becoming something can be great at it. The fact that they’re interested combined with the fact that they practice their interest makes them that person. I am interested in being a dominant and I read about dominance, talk to other dominants and practice D/s with my submissive. That makes me a dominant. But if you only have the interest, or only have the practice, I don’t think it’s the same.

Please remember that this is my opinion, but this is what I think of these people;

-I have the interest, but don’t have the practice yet. I’m new/curious and haven’t started learning yet. That doesn’t make me a dominant, but I can become one.

-I have the skill, but I don’t really care for this role. It may have been an experiment or me trying to please a submissive partner. I am not a dominant.

-I have the interest, but I will never practice this role for whatever reasons. I will never be a dominant unless I change my mind.

-I have the interest and I practice it! I am a dominant.

Scored

From Depraved Girls.

just your everyday visit

I found this picture on Red Rump, but it's originally from nu-westleda.

I get so much joy from seeing people caning whilst wearing sweaters! Is that strange? :D