An object of desire

From Degustibuss.

This image, this view of a woman from behind, with a man's hands around her torso from below... I know this is supposed to be the view of a dominant woman with her submissive worshipping her, with her full of power and control, but... honestly all I can see her as is an object of desire. Though that might be a form of dominance, using his desire to control him, it's not a kind of dominance that I enjoy. I mean, what happens when you age or gain weight or lose weight or anything changes? Do you lose your power over him if your power only ever stemmed from his physical desire for you?

So that form of dominance does not fit well with me, not only for that reason, but also because then dominant women are forced into society's idea of what a woman should look like and dress when being dominant. Which is this woman in the photo we're looking at. She's wearing gloves and fishnet and a corset. She's fit and beautiful. That's all you need to be a dominant.

Now, back to what I see in this photo, because I really do enjoy it and find it gorgeous.

I really enjoy objectification. I enjoy it as an artist, seeing a beautiful human-art creation, and I enjoy it as a dominant, watching someone obey their top and remain a still and amazing piece of art or furniture.  So I really do enjoy this photo, just from the opposite side. I'm viewing this in a way that suggests that she is submitting to him. She is a beautiful human statue and he is enjoying being able to play with the artwork that she has become. Those hands are in control. She's just a lovely, submissive doll.

Yes, I realize that a lot of dominants enjoy dressing up and that fit and societally-deemed beautiful people are dominant as well, but I find that they are a much smaller category than the sexy fat people I know who like to play while wearing jeans or sweatpants.

Please enjoy the photo, whichever side you prefer.

Double caning

Two couples enjoy some caning together. I love that the ladies are wound up for some dramatic strikes and I love the masochist in the front. Look at that pose! He's begging for more, ass in the air, pushed back as far as he can go so she has better access. His mouth is open in a yell of some kind (probably happy, judging by the position) and his cock is hard.

Even though I'm not a fan of tops wearing heels and corsets, I do like the naked top and I really enjoy this piece.

From Otto's Spanking Art.

Ride

It would be fun to tell a pony something like this... and then just ride around on their back instead of fucking them the way a lot of them would want you to. :) Maybe that's just the sadist in me.

Wonderful pony, great gear and the suggestion of a happier times to come.

From the wonderful Audrey Dutroux.

Kiss ass

Sweet pet kissing his lady's ass from Domme and pet in love.

To dress as a woman

Wow.

I really don't even know what to say about this picture, except that he is absolutely stunning and this is what I love about crossdressing. Because he is absolutely beautiful and just as hairy and muscular as a man can be. And he can still wear a beautiful corset, garters and stockings. He can be delicate and feminine and manly and fuzzy and muscular and drop-dead gorgeous all at once. This is why I love crossdressing.


Not because women are more submissive, not because men believe women to be sluts and therefore dressing as a woman means dressing as a slut, but because sometimes they look gorgeous in clothing designated for women. Sometimes it's just lovely.

And sometimes they can be a dirty, filthy little girl in frilly panties, and that's okay.

Sometimes, I think people forget that as long as everyone's consenting, fetishes and kinks don't really hurt anyone. Maybe we should just let them be.

Apparently I did know what to say about this picture. Huh.

This epiphany has been awhile coming. I've been debating the misogyny of crossdressing with a few other female dominants and reading a lot about it. It's just like any kink, especially those that can be insulting. Race play, consensual nonconsent... so many of these things can be construed as racist, misogynistic, homophobic, whatever, but it's not meant to be seen from outside, in a way. What's important is what the people involved are getting out of it.

If you're involved and it squicks you, remove yourself. Call red. It's that simple.

by the neck

Good photo from Frederick. I like the expressions, as well as her hips and tummy. He's got a nice strong body too.

I've never been to fond of those kinds of bondage mitts, but apparently they work.

Show pony

Show pony girl from the talented artist, Beej. Pretty pony gear! I always have loved pony fetish gear. Beautiful! Cool corset and great hair style!

Bound by the waist

Gorgeous bondage from Eve Productions.

piercing bondage

Some wonderfully original piercing bondage. A simple corset piercing over two arms in a way I've never seen before. Super cool work from Pootboot.

pearls

Corset, garter belt and pink stockings... and pearls. Oh pearls. Why have they slunk into my kinks? Darn those wonderful pictures.

corset piercing, tattoo and rose

Oddly, I think a tattoo of a corset piercing would be cool. This almost looks like a tattoo, I think it's the redness. I know piercings generally get red too, but for some reason I just associate it with tattoos.

waiting with wine

This is some interesting fetish art from By the Hand. The art is kind of old fashioned, it reminds of illustrations in old books. Except for the bright colors, but I can ignore that.

rope and lace

I believe these photos are from Splash Photography, but I can't find any fetish art there. Anyway, lovely fetish photos. Great clothes and some fair rope work. If she keeps it that tight on her upper arm for very long though, it's going to hurt in the morning!

male corset

Some fetish art from Mirrorx1. I love male corsetry. I'm not entirely sure why, but some of them just look awesome. I think it has to do with my formal wear fetish.

kneeling pony

Interesting pony bondage by Richard Savage.

at home

A sketchy portrait from Suzanne Forbes. I like the background, the bowl of snacks, the bust and the cross... heh a wonderful home or party.

pony outdoors

An interesting pony play photo. Why the pony boots if you're just going to crawl? It's very beautiful, but people just aren't pony shaped enough for crawling or walking to work. Walking on two feet is the best way to get the motion. Hands and knees are more suited for puppy play.

Service top VS regular top

Watercolor wonder from Helen Gorrill. I'm quite fond of some of her art, but I'm not sure if I appreciate the way she portrays female D-types.

This was one of the better ones, but most of them are covered in latex or leather, dealing with the usual stereotypes of paid service tops VS real dominant women. Though I can appreciate service tops in art, and I do quite a bit, it does bother me sometimes. It's rare that we see a strong, dominant woman who is dressed comfortably. Or chubby. Or even just naked. What's with the world's stocking fetish?

Horse and rider

A great old photo from bdsm romance. I adore the stirrups attached to his underwear, the very realistic horse head he's wearing, the reins, her adorable outfit and cute expression as she holds the whip over her head.

I know this is a posed photo, but it's still awesome and she's adorable.

blindfolded cock sucking

Though I wish that the top wasn't in a corset and stockings, this is a great picture. Blindfold, massage table as bondage furniture and strap-on sucking.

Photo by Ken Marcus.