Hey. Please enjoy this dead blog. One day it may revive itself.
I doubt it.
submission/masculinity
Is it a shameful thing to be submissive?
Watch femdom porn. The men wear masks. The men have their faces turned away from the camera. The women never wear masks and you can always see their faces. Their identities aren't something they need to hide.
You know what I hear from a lot of submissive men? I can't go to a munch because of my job. People might see me. People might know who I am.
I never hear this from dominant men. I never hear this from women. I'm not saying there aren't other people out there who are worried about people finding out who they are, but I talk to a lot of kinksters.
Why is it shameful to be a submissive man?
Why is masculinity so far removed from submission in so many cultures?
Photo from redbottom83.
Pretty ropes
This is from Petxis.
Enjoy.
An object of desire
This image, this view of a woman from behind, with a man's hands around her torso from below... I know this is supposed to be the view of a dominant woman with her submissive worshipping her, with her full of power and control, but... honestly all I can see her as is an object of desire. Though that might be a form of dominance, using his desire to control him, it's not a kind of dominance that I enjoy. I mean, what happens when you age or gain weight or lose weight or anything changes? Do you lose your power over him if your power only ever stemmed from his physical desire for you?
So that form of dominance does not fit well with me, not only for that reason, but also because then dominant women are forced into society's idea of what a woman should look like and dress when being dominant. Which is this woman in the photo we're looking at. She's wearing gloves and fishnet and a corset. She's fit and beautiful. That's all you need to be a dominant.
Now, back to what I see in this photo, because I really do enjoy it and find it gorgeous.
I really enjoy objectification. I enjoy it as an artist, seeing a beautiful human-art creation, and I enjoy it as a dominant, watching someone obey their top and remain a still and amazing piece of art or furniture. So I really do enjoy this photo, just from the opposite side. I'm viewing this in a way that suggests that she is submitting to him. She is a beautiful human statue and he is enjoying being able to play with the artwork that she has become. Those hands are in control. She's just a lovely, submissive doll.
Yes, I realize that a lot of dominants enjoy dressing up and that fit and societally-deemed beautiful people are dominant as well, but I find that they are a much smaller category than the sexy fat people I know who like to play while wearing jeans or sweatpants.
Please enjoy the photo, whichever side you prefer.
bloodied and gagged
I love this piece. I actually love this artist in general, but this one in particular. I love his expression, I love the facial hair, the blood dripping down, and the colors. There's a few beautiful bite marks on his shoulder and neck.
Is he pulling something or is he just bit-gagged?
Either way, beautiful.
Return
Hello everyone, sorry for my little 5 week hiatus. Work and life in general have been absolutely insane. I'm back with a sexy photo to make up for my disappearance. Enjoy!
From Black Fantastix.
Used
The reality of that sort of play is terrifying. The fantasy might be amazing and mind-blowing, but trusting your body and your self to a stranger, or even to someone you know, without the option of safewording or escaping safely... terrifying.
On the plus side, it makes for some sexy art.
Go thank Coffee Cream for the art.
smiles
Service
I love service.
I am a sadist. During sex, I switch. I enjoy bottoming for that as well as for the occasional flogging or what-have-you, usually a thuddy implement. I'm primarily a top. I'm also a dominant.
I used to find dominance to be absolutely exhausting.
To stay in the frame of mind where I am the Master, I must be in control, I must be strict and cruel and creative and completely in charge, as well as kind and merciful and loving is hard for me. I prefer to be a creative sadist. I'm very hands on and when it comes to more emotional or mental scenes, I tend to get tired pretty quickly and revert to my sadistic self, since I'm a more physical person.
Which I'm sure is a bit frustrating for my boy, who is not only a wonderfully tough maso (our pet name for masochists) but also very submissive. He needs submission to be able to get himself together somedays. Just like we both need a good kicking-the-shit-out-of-him scene when we haven't played for awhile. Most kinksters will agree it's a major stress-relief.
So, while I find dominance to be exhausting, especially when I was first stepping into the role (back when I had no idea what a sadist even was) I find the idea of service to be totally liberating. I can focus on my needs and without putting much creative thought into it, this fulfills the needs of my submissive. I can ask for food, drink, massage, attention. Even me saying 'pet meeee!' is demanding a bit of service, albeit in the whiniest voice possible.
The big D/s scenes are more fun this way, though we haven't done one in awhile. I find it's easier if I break it down into little things. Boot worship, maybe throw in some sadism there, add a bit of body worship, orgasm control, bondage...
I admit, I used to panic when I stepped into my D/s role. My brain would immediately rush from idea to idea and the scene would turn into a jumble. I'd threaten him with certain things and never follow through. I'd forget what I was doing and confuse him completely when I asked for several things at once. Note to self (and other D-types who have this problem); be clear when you're instructing someone. They can't read your mind and they really want to make you happy.
It's taken some time, but now that we're here, I find that I really enjoy having a butler as much as I enjoy having a maso. I love having him 'run the household'. Though a lot of people on the outside of our relationship have commented on how T seems to run everything and be in charge, the duty of a butler is to keep everything running and to make sure their master doesn't have to.
And really, I'd be awful at taking care of a wine cellar (not that we have one).
Not everyone who is submissive is good at service, or wants to be. It takes dedication, love, a stubborn perfectionism and eye for detail. I only wish I could be more the Master my boy deserves. <3
Sex
I admit, I had to post this one because her hair reminds me of Andromeda's hair from my earlier post. That is some amazing hair!
Also, though this blog is about sex as well as kink, bdsm, etc, it's pretty rare that I post pictures of penetrative sex, especially with a straight couple. It certainly used to squick me, as a gender-unhappy kinky person who is usually seen as lady-shaped, but I also didn't want this blog to be seen as porn. Yes, it's certainly porny and sexy and full of wank-fodder, but having vanilla-ish sex posted often or even at all just sat wrong with me. But to be uncomfortable by something consensual and lovely (like this photo) is kind of silly, so we might be getting more photos of penetrative, vaginal sex.
So, here, have some sex; a lovely female top using her handcuffed boy to get herself off.
PS, Real Dominant Women, I really like a lot of your photos, but your name makes me think of 'the ONE TWUE WAY' and makes me giggle/sad.
Andromeda
Andromeda was chained to a rock as a sacrifice to a sea monster (which you can see in the bottom left, if you stop staring at the naked lady) because of her mother's bragging. Oh, mythology, you're so kinky.
This is why I started painting. Not because of this painting specifically, but because this is how I wanted to be able to paint.
Ambiguous
I both like and dislike this photo. I like that he's holding her hair, that she's got a cigarette and that her body language is just so relaxed. I'm sort of 50/50 on the bracelet he's wearing. A lot of people mix the goth style into kink and I'm meh about that. But as sensation play, those spikes could be a lot of fun, so I'm all for that side of it.
I like him grabbing her, but both his hands seem so tense. That might just be the amount of pressure he's using to pull/squeeze, but it doesn't look comfortable. Part of what I've learned about bdsm is that the top should be worried about pulling a muscle as much as they should be worried about hurting their bottom. Play comfortably or be prepared to hurt yourself.
The part I have the most issue with... is that I can't see their faces. Though this is a lovely photo, it could be completely one way or the other just by the expressions that we can't see. Is she bored? Is he angry?
I like being able to see happy people playing, and I can't read their body language well enough to say 'wow, these people are so happy together, grabbing and being grabbed. That's awesome'.
Sweet little pinch
I'm not usually into shaved lady-parts, but this is a pretty awesome photo.
From Cyanide Mishka.
Enjoyment
Fanfiction also has a lot of 'no, don't tie me up, it's humiliating', but I can find ones I like more easily. And I like writing it too, so even better.
appealing objects
All of these are from Alexander.
I would love to see things like this more often on sites like fetlife. If you're into kink and you're looking to attract a dominant/top/whatever and one of your interests is objectification, why not post a photo of it? I think that would be much better received than a picture of, oh, say, your penis.
Lovely work from a great model. Very creative, different poses to be a table of different heights.
Great stuff!
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